Sunday, June 27, 2010
Saturday, June 26, 2010
Encouraging
adj.
Giving courage, confidence, or hope or promise.
Relationships are all about trusts and encouragement.
To Break down the walls
To Build bridges
To Heal wounds and bring Hope…
TO ENCOURAGE.
Knowing the step by step process to give hope and encourage yourself and others ensures you will never be at loss for the right words to say to treasure hunt discouragement into encouragement and help others feel inspired. Time is your most precious resource and now is the time to learn how to inspire others and yourself to live a purpose-filled life!
Knowing how to encourage yourself and others brings purpose, passion, potential, and power to live a positive, confident and healthy life.
Learn the right words to say to impact others in a positive way!
There is such a strong connection in couples that support each other through each stage of life. For better or worse is the motto in marriage, friendship, family, and all stages of your relationship. If you're happily together through everything, then you will likely stay together through everything in the future.
A slow pace is still important when wanting to advance your relationship. Since men generally progress much slower with their feelings and emotional attachment, give him plenty of time to feel love. As long as your relationship is a topic of discussion and importance to you both, then you're not waiting around for nothing.
You can encourage love by what you do. This is the time to reel them with more affection and attention to the relationship. He needs to see everything you are deep within by watching you pursue your own dreams while encouraging them. Talking honestly about your feelings for one another and where'd you like the relationship to go is a bold action you can do to encourage the possibility of real love for you two.
Be their friend. Think about your friendships and how strong they are. What builds your friendships with your best friends should build your relationship with your lover who should be your best friend of all. The only difference is a stronger love of you and them than anyone else. You can do anything you want to encourage love but it should be based on this as your strongest friendship ever, patience to know each other well, and mutual encouragement together to move through life
Giving courage, confidence, or hope or promise.
Relationships are all about trusts and encouragement.
To Break down the walls
To Build bridges
To Heal wounds and bring Hope…
TO ENCOURAGE.
Knowing the step by step process to give hope and encourage yourself and others ensures you will never be at loss for the right words to say to treasure hunt discouragement into encouragement and help others feel inspired. Time is your most precious resource and now is the time to learn how to inspire others and yourself to live a purpose-filled life!
Knowing how to encourage yourself and others brings purpose, passion, potential, and power to live a positive, confident and healthy life.
Learn the right words to say to impact others in a positive way!
There is such a strong connection in couples that support each other through each stage of life. For better or worse is the motto in marriage, friendship, family, and all stages of your relationship. If you're happily together through everything, then you will likely stay together through everything in the future.
A slow pace is still important when wanting to advance your relationship. Since men generally progress much slower with their feelings and emotional attachment, give him plenty of time to feel love. As long as your relationship is a topic of discussion and importance to you both, then you're not waiting around for nothing.
You can encourage love by what you do. This is the time to reel them with more affection and attention to the relationship. He needs to see everything you are deep within by watching you pursue your own dreams while encouraging them. Talking honestly about your feelings for one another and where'd you like the relationship to go is a bold action you can do to encourage the possibility of real love for you two.
Be their friend. Think about your friendships and how strong they are. What builds your friendships with your best friends should build your relationship with your lover who should be your best friend of all. The only difference is a stronger love of you and them than anyone else. You can do anything you want to encourage love but it should be based on this as your strongest friendship ever, patience to know each other well, and mutual encouragement together to move through life
Sunday, June 20, 2010
Thursday, June 17, 2010
Love is overrated
it's a given fact. today, there's no love. everyone just wants to be in each other's pants.
IF there is love. prove it. let me see it.
IF there is love. prove it. let me see it.
Tuesday, June 8, 2010
Stupid
People are just too stupid with each other. what the fuck is with their "feelings" it's completely stupid.
Saturday, June 5, 2010
Overthinking
Overthinking is a natural part of life for many of us, even when we’re not aware we’re doing it. More women (57%) find themselves overthinking than men (43%), which is a significant difference. This means the majority of women are overthinkers, and the majority of overthinkers are women.
Overthinking can occur as a consequence of a decision that needs to be made, big or small, and is typically exacerbated in stressful situations. It’s not limited to decision making however, as it can also rear it’s ugly head whenever something has the ability to cause any level of anxiety or worry. It’s the proverbial thing that “keeps you up at night” and stems from an actual or perceived lack of control over some aspect of life. With a lack of control comes a feeling of helplessness. Overthinking is frequently the direct result. The worst overthinkers actually spend time overthinking seemingly meaningless things to the point that they’ve spent more time thinking about the thing than the time it would have taken to address it completely. What a waste of time and energy!
There have been a number of studies over the past 20 years that challenge the view that overthinking equates to better decisions and therefore improved happiness and success. Specifically these studies have found that overthinkers are more prone to sustained sadness and negative thinking. And though it may seem that thinking through problems to the extreme would result in better decisions, overthinking has actually been shown to impair problem solving and rational thought, and interfere with initiative and motivation.
What’s worse is that people aren’t clued in to the dangers of overthinking. Most people feel they’re making progress while cogitating endlessly, but in fact they’re permeating negative thoughts and fostering a pessimistic view of the situation. As we know, “we are what we think”, and for those stuck in the cycle of overthinking, they’re reinforcing this adverse thought process and letting it trickle into other areas of thought.
when in a relationship, people overthink too much of the posibility of their otcome in the status quo.
"am i doing my best to keep this relationship at bay?"
"Am I good enough to be with him/her?"
Majority, it's okay to overthink. but please, don't sress too much on it. communication is key to the essantial of a healthy relationship
Overthinking can occur as a consequence of a decision that needs to be made, big or small, and is typically exacerbated in stressful situations. It’s not limited to decision making however, as it can also rear it’s ugly head whenever something has the ability to cause any level of anxiety or worry. It’s the proverbial thing that “keeps you up at night” and stems from an actual or perceived lack of control over some aspect of life. With a lack of control comes a feeling of helplessness. Overthinking is frequently the direct result. The worst overthinkers actually spend time overthinking seemingly meaningless things to the point that they’ve spent more time thinking about the thing than the time it would have taken to address it completely. What a waste of time and energy!
There have been a number of studies over the past 20 years that challenge the view that overthinking equates to better decisions and therefore improved happiness and success. Specifically these studies have found that overthinkers are more prone to sustained sadness and negative thinking. And though it may seem that thinking through problems to the extreme would result in better decisions, overthinking has actually been shown to impair problem solving and rational thought, and interfere with initiative and motivation.
What’s worse is that people aren’t clued in to the dangers of overthinking. Most people feel they’re making progress while cogitating endlessly, but in fact they’re permeating negative thoughts and fostering a pessimistic view of the situation. As we know, “we are what we think”, and for those stuck in the cycle of overthinking, they’re reinforcing this adverse thought process and letting it trickle into other areas of thought.
when in a relationship, people overthink too much of the posibility of their otcome in the status quo.
"am i doing my best to keep this relationship at bay?"
"Am I good enough to be with him/her?"
Majority, it's okay to overthink. but please, don't sress too much on it. communication is key to the essantial of a healthy relationship
Friday, June 4, 2010
Doubts
We think of being in love, finding "the one," as a step-by-step process. At the first step we're alone and by the end we're not. We don't always stop to think about the fact of living through this process. Looking at the happiness of other couples, it's easy to assume that they are always sure of themselves, always happy, and never experience any doubts about their choices, but nothing could be further from the truth. You will experience doubts and insecurities in even the healthiest relationship. The most important thing is not to avoid these feelings, but to accept them and deal with them well.
The first step is to be willing to acknowledge that feelings of doubt are okay to have. Looking back over your shoulder once you've decided on a course is only natural. Still, you may find yourself asking about the people who have entered into serious relationships and seem to have no doubts at all. Why is it that some people seem so confident and others seem plagued with doubts?
Well, some people make decisions based totally on emotion. They get their adrenaline running at such a high pitch that they don't stop to analyze their actions and decisions. For the person who makes their decisions based solely on their emotions, a time will come when they will have to deal with doubts, usually at some point when it will be more difficult for them.
Other people have doubts and insecurities, but choose not to talk about them. They may feel guilty about even having these feelings in the first place. "After all", they may ask themselves, "look at all the wonderful things my partner has brought into my life. Look at all the ways I'm better for knowing them. What right have I to question my decision to be with them?"
It's important to let these feelings surface. Having such doubts and concerns is very natural, and they serve a very helpful purpose. Being in love and choosing to commit, particularly choosing to get married to someone, is a life-changing decision. Doubts offer an opportunity to cut through the emotions of the situation, allowing you to consider for yourself where the relationship is taking you and with whom it is taking you there.
When you find yourself feeling these doubts and looking back over your shoulder, it's time to locate the focal point of these fears. Ask yourself some of the following questions:
•Am I ready to commit?
Being in love with someone and committing to them, particularly marrying them, is a huge step. It's not an additive to your life's agenda - an agenda you've already set in place and will try to work your marriage into. It is an agenda all in itself, an alternative to how you lived before you made the decision to share your life with someone. Yes, it can be a huge decision and people should take it more seriously than they so often do.
To be honest, no one is "ready" to commit. You must simply commit to learning more about your partner every day and be willing to take things one day at a time, patiently building a life together, and not expecting that your love will sweep all of your insecurities away. Remember that acknowledging your fears and insecurities isn't a betrayal; it's one of the best ways to take your partner into your confidence.
•Who is this person I've fallen in love with?
As a relationship becomes more solid, as you become more committed to another person, and especially as you head toward a marriage, the tension may lead you to believe that you've been blind to the things you now see in your partner. After all, when you begin to date, you see only perfection in your partner. As things become more serious, these perfections may begin to wear thin.
Everyone needs the right to be human. Imperfections are a reality of life, even if seeing them in your partner may come as a shock to you. It's healthy to see them simply as they are: imperfections or immaturities, nothing more. We all have them. The finishing school of love, the years involved, seems to be one of God's ways of smoothing these rough edges over, and you should take heart in this.
Make a list of all the ways your partner enriches you, the things about them that drew you to them. Remember that though they may have imperfections only recently noticed, they still possess the things that drew you to them, and it is in these things that you will find comfort when you feel annoyed, frustrated, or angry.
The first step is to be willing to acknowledge that feelings of doubt are okay to have. Looking back over your shoulder once you've decided on a course is only natural. Still, you may find yourself asking about the people who have entered into serious relationships and seem to have no doubts at all. Why is it that some people seem so confident and others seem plagued with doubts?
Well, some people make decisions based totally on emotion. They get their adrenaline running at such a high pitch that they don't stop to analyze their actions and decisions. For the person who makes their decisions based solely on their emotions, a time will come when they will have to deal with doubts, usually at some point when it will be more difficult for them.
Other people have doubts and insecurities, but choose not to talk about them. They may feel guilty about even having these feelings in the first place. "After all", they may ask themselves, "look at all the wonderful things my partner has brought into my life. Look at all the ways I'm better for knowing them. What right have I to question my decision to be with them?"
It's important to let these feelings surface. Having such doubts and concerns is very natural, and they serve a very helpful purpose. Being in love and choosing to commit, particularly choosing to get married to someone, is a life-changing decision. Doubts offer an opportunity to cut through the emotions of the situation, allowing you to consider for yourself where the relationship is taking you and with whom it is taking you there.
When you find yourself feeling these doubts and looking back over your shoulder, it's time to locate the focal point of these fears. Ask yourself some of the following questions:
•Am I ready to commit?
Being in love with someone and committing to them, particularly marrying them, is a huge step. It's not an additive to your life's agenda - an agenda you've already set in place and will try to work your marriage into. It is an agenda all in itself, an alternative to how you lived before you made the decision to share your life with someone. Yes, it can be a huge decision and people should take it more seriously than they so often do.
To be honest, no one is "ready" to commit. You must simply commit to learning more about your partner every day and be willing to take things one day at a time, patiently building a life together, and not expecting that your love will sweep all of your insecurities away. Remember that acknowledging your fears and insecurities isn't a betrayal; it's one of the best ways to take your partner into your confidence.
•Who is this person I've fallen in love with?
As a relationship becomes more solid, as you become more committed to another person, and especially as you head toward a marriage, the tension may lead you to believe that you've been blind to the things you now see in your partner. After all, when you begin to date, you see only perfection in your partner. As things become more serious, these perfections may begin to wear thin.
Everyone needs the right to be human. Imperfections are a reality of life, even if seeing them in your partner may come as a shock to you. It's healthy to see them simply as they are: imperfections or immaturities, nothing more. We all have them. The finishing school of love, the years involved, seems to be one of God's ways of smoothing these rough edges over, and you should take heart in this.
Make a list of all the ways your partner enriches you, the things about them that drew you to them. Remember that though they may have imperfections only recently noticed, they still possess the things that drew you to them, and it is in these things that you will find comfort when you feel annoyed, frustrated, or angry.
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